Yishmael Comes Around

 

R. Yaakov Bieler

Parshat Chaye Sara, 5766

 

A recurrent theme in Rabbinic literature, including commentaries on Beraishit 25:9 in Parshat Chaye Sara, concerns Avraham’s son Yishmael’s religious orientation towards the end of his father’s life.

 

Yishmael’s early alienation from Avraham’s form of belief and worship is assumed by Rabbinic tradition on the basis of three considerations:

a)  the implication of the verb “Metzachek” (lit. playing) in 21:9, an action  which Sara observes Yishmael engaging in vis-à-vis Yitzchak, and which  precipitates her insistence that Yishmael and his mother be banished from contact with Avraham and Sara’s family,

b)  the ostensibly cold and cruel manner by which Yishmael is sent away and essentially given a death sentence by Avraham (see 21:14-16), suggesting some extraordinary disillusionment on his part with his son, adding to the basis for Sara’s documented negativity,

    and c)  although HaShem, via an angel, ultimately Saves Hagar and Yishmael from impending  death (21:17-20), the fact that Hagar, who had earlier been identified as a specifically Egyptian handmaiden (16:1),  picks an Egyptian wife for her son (21:21) suggests that they returned to their original culture and the religious beliefs associated with it.

 

In terms of the transgressions suggested by “Metzachek”, the Midrash presents the following possibilities with respect to the word’s connotation:

 

Beraishit Rabba 53:11

“And Sara saw the son of Hagar the Egyptian”—

Said R. Shimon bar Yochai: Rabbi Akiva saw something negative in this behavior (of Yishmael) and I saw something positive.

R. Akiva interpreted: “And Sara saw”—“Metzachek” is to be understood as sexual immorality. This is just as it is stated, (39:14) “And she (Mrs. Potiphar) called to the members of her household, and she said to them, saying: See! He (her husband) has brought to us a Hebrew man ‘LeTzachek’ with us. He came to me to lie with me and I called out in a loud voice.” This teaches that Sara our Foremother saw that Yishmael would frequent gardens and stalk married women and rape them.

It was taught in the Yeshiva of R. Yishmael: This language of “Tzechok” refers to idolatry, as it is stated, (Shemot 32:6, within the context of the sin of the Golden Calf) “And they got up early the next morning and they offered whole burnt offerings, and they brought peace offerings, and the people sat down to eat and drink and they rose ‘LeTzachek’.” This teaches that Sara our Foremother saw Yishmael build mini-alters and hunt grasshoppers, and he would offer them upon them (the alters).

R. Elazar beno shel R. Yosi HaGallili said: This language of “Tzechok” refers to bloodshed. It is just as it is said, (II Shmuel 2:14) “…let the young men rise up and ‘VaYesachaku’ before us (these turned out to be not just contests in skill, but war games to the death).”

R. Azarya in the name of R. Levi said: Yishmael said to Yitzchak, “Come, let us see our possessions in the fields,” and he would take a bow and arrows, and shoot them in Yitzchak’s direction, pretending all the time that he is only “playing”. It is just as it is said, (Mishlei 22:18-19) “Like one who exhausts himself by shooting arrows of fire…” so too is one who tricks his friend and says, ‘I am only playing.’”

But I (R. Shimon bar Yochai) say something concerning the implications of the term “Metzachek” in a “positive”[1] vein. The connotation of “Tzechok” is an expression associated with inheritance. At the time that our Father Yitzchak was born, everyone was rejoicing. Yishmael said to them: You are fools. I am the firstborn, and I will take a double portion (of Avraham’s estate).[2] For from the response of our Foremother Sara to Avraham, “for the son of this handmaiden will not inherit with my son” you can learn that (her intent was) Yishmael will not inherit with my son even if I was not speaking of Yitzchak; and he will not inherit with Yitzchak even if the latter was not my son; all the more so will he not inherit since Yitzchak is truly my son.

 

Sephorno on 21:9 interprets “Metzachek” by employing the hermeneutic principle of “Semichut HaParshiot” (the juxtaposition of topics),[3] seeking to relate 21:9 specifically to the contents of 21:8. His view parallels that of R. Shimon bar Yochai in the Midrash cited above, but adds a certain hurtful edge that would more easily justify a powerful response on the part of Sara.

 

Sephorno on 21:9

Et Ben Hagar HaMitzrit” (the son of Hagar the Egyptian)—she (Sara) thought that he (Yishmael) learned this insult (see the next comment) because he heard it from his mother, as the Rabbis have stated, (Sukka 56b) “What the child says in public is what s/he has heard from his/her father or mother.”[4]

Metzachek”—He was speaking deprecatingly regarding the celebration that was taking place in Avraham’s home, by saying that Sara had conceived with Avimelech.[5],[6] The reason why Yishmael had not said this immediately when Yitzchak was born,[7] was because Yishmael heard these malicious accusations later, from the cynics of the generation. And in the event that he had said such things at the time of Yitzchak’s birth, Sara did not notice his comments since she was preoccupied with other matters.

 

Avraham’s eventual cruelty with respect to the manner in which Hagar and Yishmael are sent out into the desert with virtually no supplies and therefore little hope for survival (21:14) is accounted for by the Rabbis by expanding upon the approach of the Yeshiva of R. Yishmael listed above.

 

Shemot Rabba 1:1

…What is meant by (Mishlei 13:24) “One who keeps back the rod hates his child…”? It is to teach that whoever withholds from his child bitterness, in the end s/he will come to be involved in negative activity and the parent will hate him/her. For this is what we find with Yishmael, whose father Avraham was extremely indulgent to him, and did not discipline him. He engaged in negative activity and Avraham in the end hated him, and he banished him from his home with nothing. What did Yishmael do? When he was 15, he began to bring idols home from the market, and he would “Metzachek” with them and worship them, emulating what he saw others doing. Immediately, “And Sara saw the son of Hagar the Egyptian that had conceived him with Avraham, ‘Metzachek’.” “Metzachek” connotes idolatry… Immediately “And she said to Avraham: Banish this handmaiden and her son”, lest my son learn from his ways. Immediately, “And the thing was very bad in the eyes of Avraham” that Yishmael had engaged in negative activity. “And God Said to Avraham: This should not be evil in your eyes”…Immediately “And Avraham rose up early in the morning and took a bread and a skin of water” to teach that he hated Yishmael that he had engaged in negative activity. And he sent him and his mother empty-handed and troubled from his home as a result. Does it ever cross your mind that Avraham, about whom it is written, (13:2) “And Avram was very wealthy in terms of herds etc.” would send out his wife and child from his home empty-handed without clothing or means of support? But this is to teach you that since he engaged in negative activity, he (Avraham) no longer was positively disposed towards him. What was his (Yishmael)’s end? He would lie in ambush at crossroads and steal from those passing by, as it is said, (16:12) “He will be a wild donkey of a man…”…

 

The Midrash therefore not only attributes to Yishmael idolatrous indiscretions during his adolescence, but that his disenfranchisement by Avraham directly leads to a life of thievery and preying on others.

 

Consequently, given the broad attribution to Yishmael of so much anti-social and anti-monotheistic behavior, it is surprising to read RaShI’s commentary on 25:9, based upon a combination of a Talmudic passage in Bava Batra and a Midrash in Beraishit Rabba, that suggests that while there may have been an initial disenchantment with Avraham’s monotheistic beliefs and ethical practices, Yishmael later repented, and took up Avraham’s faith and lifestyle once again during his father’s lifetime.

 

Beraishit 25:9

And they, Yitzchak and Yishmael his sons, buried him (Avraham) in Ma’arat HaMachpeila (the Cave of the Pairs), in the field of Efron ben Tzochar the Hittite which faces Mamre.

 

RaShI

From here (it can be concluded) Yishmael engaged in “Teshuva” (repentance), and therefore allowed Yitzchak to precede him (in the funeral procession, implied by the order of the names listed in the verse);[8] and this is the “Seiva Tova” (good old age) that had been promised to Avraham. (The last portion of this commentary is a reference to the “Covenant between the Pieces” recorded in Beraishit 15, that includes the following Divine Promise: (15:15) “And you [Avraham] will come to your fathers in peace, and you will be buried in a good old age.”) 

 

Bava Batra 16b

R. Yochanan said: Consider Yishmael, that there is written concerning him “Geviah” (expiration) and “Aseifa” (gathering)[9] (references to verbs appearing in connection with Yishmael in 25:17 “And these are the years of the life of Yishmael: 100 years and 30 years, and 7 years and he expired and he died and he was gathered to his people)…

R. Yochanan said: Yishmael repented during his father’s lifetime, as it is said, “And they, Yitchak and Yishmael his sons, buried him…”

But perhaps their listing was in accordance with their respective levels of wisdom (Yitzchak being considered wiser than Yishmael deserved a listing ahead of his older brother, even though Yishmael may not have actually deferred to allow Yitzchak to lead the funeral procession)?

But then consider another parallel verse: (35:29) “And Yitzchak expired and he died and he was gathered unto his people, old and satiated in days, and they buried him, Eisav and Yaakov, his sons.” What reason were the sons not mentioned in this case according to their wisdom (which would have placed Yaakov ahead of Eisav)? But rather he (Yishmael) deferred to Yitzchak and said, “You lead the way”, indicating that Yishmael had repented.

 

Beraishit Rabba 38:12

…(15:15) “And you will be buried in a good old age”—He (HaShem) informed him (Avraham) that Yishmael would repent.[10]

 

Certainly the Talmudic interpretation of 25:9 appears to have come to light only after a comparison with 35:29 reveals an apparent inconsistency with regard to the order of the listing of the siblings involved in the funeral procession. Had 35:29, or for that matter even 25:9, simply said, “And they, his sons, buried their father”, we would not have had any basis of comparison and would not have been aware of any exceedingly subtle, implied change in Yishmael. The Midrashic insight into the nature of the “good old age” mentioned in 15:15, clearly assumes that what HaShem is Referring to, is the quality of one’s older years, rather than their quantity. Yet, to specifically interpret this terminology with respect to Yishmael’s behavior towards the end of Avraham’s life does not appear to be a particularly obvious interpretation. Many different factors, including experiences and accomplishments independent of how one’s progeny have turned out would seem to contribute to how an individual ultimately feels about the life that s/he has led. The Midrash on 24:1 suggests a parallel source for the idea that Yishmael repented that shares an identical premise with Beraishit Rabba 38:12.

 

Beraishit Rabba 59:7

(Beraishit 24:1) “And HaShem Blessed Avraham with everything”—…R. Levi said (this connotes) three things: 1) that He Gave him dominion over his inclination,[11] 2) that Yishmael engaged in “Teshuva” during his (Avraham’s) lifetime, and 3) that his storage houses were never lacking.[12]

 

Once again, just as a parent might consider a long life as incomplete and frustrating as long as a child has turned his/her back on the parent’s traditions and decided to live his/her life in a manner quite at odds with their upbringing, so too no matter how much one owns and has accomplished, a recalcitrant, rebellious child can render it all meaningless and create the impression that one’s life has been cursed rather than blessed. However, to convincingly claim that Yishmael did “Teshuva” and this was the answer to all of Avraham’s prayers does not appear to be an obvious understanding of the phrases in question. Consequently, it is not surprising that various commentators search for additional indications that such a transformation took place on the part of Yishmael.

 

Klee Yakar wonders how to reconcile the idea of Hagar’s having provoked Yishmael’s negative activity—if Sephorno could attribute Yishmael’s scandalous rumor mongering to his mother, why shouldn’t the sexual immorality, idolatry and bloodshed also be seen to have if not been encouraged, than at least not discouraged by Hagar as well—and the Rabbinic tradition that Ketura, whom Avraham marries following the death of Sara and Yitzchak and Rivka’s wedding (25:1), is in fact Hagar (see e.g., RaShI).

 

Klee Yakar on 25:1

…Immediately (when he realized that Hagar may have been at least partially responsible for Yishmael’s idolatrous activities) he divorced her,[13] and she went and wandered, in accordance with Sara’s wishes. So what is difficult to understand is if Avraham divorced Hagar due to the improper matter of her involvement with idolatry, how could he have gone and remarried her? Therefore, we are being told (by Avraham’s action) that she repented just as Yishmael her son repented as well. And in order to publicize her change of heart, Avraham called her “Ketura”, calling to mind the incense sacrifice “Ketoret”. He was demonstrating to all that she had repented. With respect to every “Ba’al Teshuva”, his/her past intentional sins are from this point forward considered as merits,[14] and these intentional sins rise up to Heaven as a pleasant spirit, comparable to merits. It is for this reason that such a turnaround is compared to Ketoret, which contains the spice frankincense, which by itself has a foul order, but when combined with the other spices, rises up as a pleasant odor…

 

An intriguing question is raised by Klee Yakar’s approach: who did “Teshuva” first? Was it Hagar’s repentance that influenced Yishmael, or did Yishmael’s turnaround affect Hagar? While in the Messianic Age we are told (Malachi 3:24)  “And the hearts of the fathers will be restored by the children, and the hearts of the children by the fathers”, each case is probably unique unto itself. Was it Hagar’s love for Avraham that brought her back into the religious fold, leading to her son’s following suit, or was it Yishmael’s desire to please his father that gave Hagar pause and made her reconsider readopting Avraham’s beliefs and perspectives?

 

Gur Aryeh supplies an interesting insight with regard to a curious comment that RaShI attributes to Avraham concerning Yishmael, and which may resolve the question that was raised by Klee Yakar’s commentary. According to the order of events, the Binding of Isaac (Chapt. 22) takes place after Hagar and Yishmael have been banished (Chapt. 21). Yet from RaShI’s perspective, Avraham’s emotional tie apparently remains.[15] The context of the verse is that HaShem is in the process of Informing Avraham of the Commandment to sacrifice Yitzchak, and Avraham appears to be attempting to avoid dealing with the implications of the test.

 

Beraishit 22:2

Take now your son, your only son, that you love, Yitzchak, and go to the land of Moriah and offer him up there as a whole burnt offering on one of the mountains that I will tell you.

 

RaShI

“Your son”—He said to Him: I have two sons. He Said to him,

“Your only son”—He said to Him: This one is the only son to his mother, and this one is the only son to his mother. He Said to him,

“That you love”—He said to Him: I love both of them…[16]

 

Gur Aryeh

Even though he (RaShI) had written (on 21:14, in accordance with Shemot Rabba 1:1) that Avraham had not given Yishmael any silver or gold because he had engaged in negative activity…nevertheless he still felt love for Yishmael, since HaShem had Informed him that Yishmael would eventually repent.[17]

 

The most imaginative and fully developed description of Avraham and Yishmael’s relationship post-banishment is found in Pirkei D’Rabbi Eliezer:

 

Pirkei D’Rabbi Eliezer, Chapt. 29

…Avraham rose up early and wrote a bill of divorcement and gave it to Hagar and sent her and her son away from him and from Yitzchak, his son, from this world and from the next…Avraham stood to watch his son Yishmael and to see in which direction he would travel.  And due to Avraham’s merit, the water in the skin never ran out. But when he reached the beginning of the desert, she (Hagar) began to wander after the idolatry of her father’s house, and immediately, the water in the skin was used up...And Yishmael’s soul was enervated with thirst...and he said, “God of Avraham my father! There is before You the results of not having water (i.e., Look at the state to which I have been reduced). Take my soul from me and Do not Allow me to die of thirst!” And HaShem Allowed Himself to Respond to him...and they journeyed to the desert of Paran and they found there sources of water and settled there...Yishmael found a wife from amongst the daughters of Moav.

After three years, Avraham went to see Yishmael, his son, and swore to Sara that he would not get down from his camel in the place where Yishmael was dwelling. And he reached the place at midday. He found there Yishmael’s wife. He said to her: Where is Yishmael? She said to him: He and his mother have gone to bring back fruits and dates from the desert. He said to her: Give me some bread and water because my soul is weary from traveling in the desert. She said to him: I have no bread or water. He said to her: When Yishmael returns, tell him the following things—The son of a wise man is already half a wise man. An elderly man from the land of Canaan came to see you, and he said, “Replace the doorstep of your house because it isn’t good for you.” And when Yishmael returned from the desert, she told him these matters, and Yishmael understood, and he sent his mother and she found for him a wife from the house of her father, and her name was Fatima.

After another three years, Avraham went to see Yishmael, his son, and Sara made him swear once again as he had done the first time that he would not descend from his camel in the place where Yishmael was dwelling. He reached the place at midday and found there Yishmael’s wife and asked: Where is Yishmael? She said to him: He and his mother went to graze the camels in the desert. He said to her: Give me some bread and water because my soul is weary from traveling in the desert. She brought out bread and water and gave them to him. Avraham stood and prayed before the Holy One, Blessed Be He, on behalf of his son, and Yishmael’s house was filled with all good things and blessings. When Yishmael returned, his wife told him all of these matters and Yishmael knew that until this point, the compassion of his father had been upon him in the manner that a father cares about his children...

  

In light of Pirkei D’Rabbi Eliezer, it is not at all surprising that Yishmael repented, and that his mother followed suit. Avraham’s kindnesses and concern did not cease, even after they had been exiled. A line of communication continued to be open, and
Avraham’s concern was eventually repaid in truly experiencing a “Seiva Tova”.

 

Shabbat Shalom, and may we all be blessed with long, meaningful and satisfying lives in the manner of Avraham Avinu.

 



[1] R. Shimon bar Yochai’s view is “positive” only in terms of comparison with the interpretations attributing to Yishmael much more dangerous and illicit behavior listed previously in the name of various Tannaim. Understanding that one has acted less than righteously does not automatically categorize him/her as an evil individual. Sara’s resolve to banish Yishmael has less to do with Yishmael’s character according to R. Shimon bar Yochai, and therefore can be understood as “relatively positive”. See fn. 2 below.

[2] Although such bragging is not optimal behavior, nevertheless, it is hard to call what normal adolescents say to each other and even to others a sin of such proportions that he and his mother deserved exile. Consequently, R. Shimon bar Yochai, as opposed to the views listed before him, refuses to assume that “Metzachek” reflects some sort of inherent moral shortcoming on the part of Yishmael, but merely a sense of competition and self-worth.

[3] Based upon the assumption that the Tora was carefully composed by HaShem, therefore no sequence of verses or stories is to be viewed as random. If in the previous verse mention was made of the celebration that Avraham made in honor of Yitzchak, then Yishmael’s “playing” or “mocking” may have been in direct response to it.

[4] Sephorno is accounting for why the Biblical text does not simply state Yishmael’s name, but rather identifies him in terms of his mother. Assuming that Hagar is guilty for instigating the cruel words of her son serves as a justification for not only the boy’s banishment, but his mother’s as well.

[5] The basis for such a charge obviously comes about as a result of Avraham and Sara’s inability to have a child of their own for such a long period of time (see 16:3). Despite Hagar’s having conceived Yishmael with Avraham, reflecting that Avraham was capable of fathering a child, cynics looked to discount the miraculous nature of Sara’s conception as predicted by the HaShem (17:16) and His Angels (18:10) and instead suggest a more scandalous explanation for Yitzchak’s sudden birth. The rumor monger’s attempt to undermine Yitzchak’s legitimacy is reflected in RaShI comment on the apparent superfluity of 25:19—

Beraishit 25:19

And these are the generations of Yitzchak, son of Avraham. Avraham fathered Yitzchak.

RaShI

“Avraham fathered Yitzchak”—because the cynics of the generation were saying, “Sara conceived from Avimelech”, because after all Avraham and Sara were together for a considerable number of years, and she never became pregnant by him, what did the Holy One, Blessed Be He do? He Formed Yitzchak’s face to practically identically mirror Avraham’s. By means of this powerful resemblance, everyone would give testimony to the fact: “Avraham fathered Yitzchak”. And that is what the verse here is indicating, i.e., Yitzchak was indeed the son of Avraham, for there was indisputable evidence that Avraham had fathered Yitzchak.

[6] Sephorno’s version of “Metzachek” would have the same result as R. Shimon bar Yochai’s interpretation, i.e., it would delegitimize Yitzchak’s claim to be Avraham’s main heir. However, whereas the Tana’s view entails Yishmael telling the truth and what is in question is whether or not as Hagar’s son he qualifies as the “Bechor” (the first-born) who is entitled to a double portion, according to Sephorno he was engaged in a much more nefarious form of spreading lies impugning not only Yitzchak, but also Avraham and Sara.

[7] 21:1-7 deal with Yitzchak’s immediate birth. 21:8 is prefaced with the phrase, “And the boy grew and he was weaned…” RaShI, based upon Ketubot 60a, interprets the verse as referring to 24 months later.

[8] Despite the fact that Yishmael was chronologically 14 years older than Yitzchak—see 17:25 and 21:5—he allowed his younger brother to walk in the lead position during Avraham’s funeral procession.

[9] The Talmud assumes that these particular verbs are used only in connection with particularly righteous individuals. It comes to such a conclusion in light of the other examples in Chumash: Avraham (25:8); Yitzchak (35:29); Yaakov (49:33); Aharon (Bamidbar 20:26, 29); Moshe (Devarim 32:3).

[10] In case someone would counter that just because a child repents at some future time, does not compensate for all of the aggravation that was caused prior to the act of repentance, the following comment is interesting to consider:

Da’at Zekeinim MiBa’alei Tosafot on 23:1

…like in the case of a convert, at the time of his/her conversion, s/he is like a new born baby, and all of the years that preceded the act of conversion are ignored, so too with regard to a penitent, the previous years of acting badly are overlooked, and the individual is to be viewed as one who has done the right thing for his entire life.

Such an attitude could indeed help a parent make peace with previous years of alienation and conflict with a child.

[11] Avraham finally demonstrated that human beings could carry out what HaShem had Told Kayin prior to his slaying his brother: (4:7) “Behold, if you do good, you will be forgiven/elevated;  but if you do not do good, sin crouches at the door, and to you is its desire, and you will rule over it!” Too many before Avraham had instead become subservient to their desires and inclinations, rather than exercising self-discipline and self-control. The initial indication of this human foible appears in 3:6.

[12] Avraham’s continuous wealth is remarkable in light of how hospitable Avraham and Sara were, and the great amount of resources that they must have expended in order to entertain the massive numbers of guests that they invited into their home.

[13] The assumption that Hagar needed a divorce is premised upon 16:3 in which the Tora states that Sara gave Hagar to Avraham as a full-fledged wife, in contrast to the status of Bilha and Zilpa, the handmaidens of Rachel and Leah. See e.g. the commentary of R. Saadia Gaon.

[14] This can be understood quite rationally, since with every deliberate transgression, it becomes more and more difficult to repent. Were a person to repent despite a troubled past, the repentance is so much more difficult and consequently religiously significant than had the person not engaged in this type of negative behavior.

[15] Naturally one could claim that these are Midrashim at odds with one another, as well as invoke the rule “Ein Mukdam U’Me’uchar BaTora” (there is no chronological order with regard to stories in TaNaCh), thereby allowing one to say that Yishmael was banished at a later point. However, it is also reasonable to read the simple implication of the text and see how it matches up with the respective Midrashim that are applied to it.

[16] Of course the presumption of Avraham’s undying love for Yishmael flies in the face of the premise of Shemot Rabba 1:1 which attributes to Avraham hatred for the malfeasances of his son.

[17] This is most probably a reference to the implications of 15:15, “a good old age”.